Rebound Relationship: 4 Common Patterns and Signs

In my experience, I have noticed that rebound relationships follow some common patterns. Of course, not all rebound relationships are the same. But I have seen enough of rebound relationships to identify common patterns in them. In this article, I am going to reveal the common patterns and signs you may find in a rebound relationship.

1. The Classic Rebound Relationship That Moves too fast

I call a classic rebound a type of relationship that starts too soon after a breakup, goes too fast and ends too soon as well. A classic rebound has the following characteristics.

a) They will usually start the relationship with someone who is the opposite of you. They may be opposite of you in physical characteristics or behavioral characteristics. For example, if you are slim blonde, the rebound may be a brunette who is a little on the heavy side. Another example, may be if you are an introvert who likes to stay in and watch Netflix with her partner; the rebound relationship your partner chooses is a party animal who loves to party even on weekdays.

b) The rebound may be the type of person they said they would never date. For example, if your ex is religious and they told you that they would never date someone of a different religion; they may get into a rebound of a different religion. This means that they don’t really care about the type of relationship they are getting into. They only care about getting into a relationship, no matter who they are getting into. And that means they are getting into the relationship to avoid the pain of breakup grief.

c) These rebounds relationship move too fast. For example, they may be official on Facebook or they may start posting pictures on Instagram way too soon. They may be posting about how great their relationship is within 2-3 weeks of starting the relationship.

4) Your ex will most likely not care about the relationship too much. If you contact your ex who is in this type of relationship, they will not put up much resistance. They will speak to you as if they don’t care about cheating on their new girlfriend or boyfriend. In fact, if you make the right moves, they will breakup with their rebound for you.

2. The Reasonable Rebound

This type of rebound relationship almost seems like a reasonable relationship. It will feel like your ex really is making an effort to move on. As if they are really trying to find the perfect person for them. Such a relationship will have the following characteristics.

a) They will try to find someone who are the opposite of the things they didn’t like about you. For example, suppose you had a lot of fights with your ex about his/her career and you expected a lot from them. When they get into a rebound, they will try to find someone who doesn’t care about their career and doesn’t have high standards. Similarly, if the reason they broke up with you was because they thought you were immature, they will try to find someone who is mature and knows what they want.

b) They will still show signs that they have strong feelings for you but will try to put logic over emotions. For example, they may tell you that they still love you but continue dating their rebound hoping that they will get over you.

c) These types of rebounds don’t usually move too fast. They will not share a lot of things over social media. In fact, they may even try to hide the rebound from you because they are not sure about what they are doing.

d) They will try to convince themselves that they are doing the right thing. But will often give into emotions. Their heart will be with you while their mind will try to convince them to move on and only focus on the rebound relationship. Their will often be a lot of hot and cold behavior towards you.

3. The Casual Rebound

This type of rebound is exactly what the name suggests. The rebound is a casual relationship that they don’t care about and don’t pretend otherwise. Your ex will most likely acknowledge that it’s nothing serious and they are just having fun. This type of relationship has the following characteristics.

a) They will let their close friends and relative know that they are dating someone. They won’t try to hide it. But won’t be public about it either.

b) They will acknowledge that it’s nothing serious and that they are just having fun.

c) They will not let the rebound relationship stop them from speaking with you. In fact, they are likely to speak to you about their rebound relationship and even discuss what they like or dislike about their new boyfriend/girlfriend.

4. The Toxic Rebound Relationship

A toxic rebound is the most dangerous of all the types of rebound relationship. The reason being your ex will find themselves in a toxic pattern that is very very hard to get out of. These types of relationships include a lot of complicated childhood issues that sometimes take years of therapy to get over. They have the following characteristics.

a) Your ex will get into a relationship too soon after the breakup, but the new relationship may not move as fast as a classic rebound relationship.

b) The person they choose to have the relationship may not be the exact opposite and, on the surface,, it will probably look like a normal relationship.

c) Your ex may develop an on again off again relationship with their new boyfriend/girlfriend. They will breakup with their new lover and get back together shortly after.

d) They will complain about their new boyfriend/girlfriend to their friends/family and maybe even you (their ex). But they will not leave the new relationship.

e) They will want to keep you around as a friend who gives them advice and they will want to give you advice on your dating life.

f) They will develop unhealthy patterns and may do something out of the ordinary. For example, if they were active on social media, they may suddenly disappear for a few months. Or if they were not active on social media, they may start posting a lot of things regularly.

g) If you are in touch with them, it will feel like their rebound partner has a lot of power over them. Like they can somehow control your ex’s emotion and know exactly what buttons to press to get your ex to do what they want.

Signs Your Ex’s New Relationship Will Not Last

It’s one thing to understand if they have a rebound relationship, it’s another to figure out when your ex will breakup with her new boyfriend/girlfriend. After all, you can’t really get them back if they are in a new relationship. Here are a few signs that will teach you whether or not their new relationship is going to breakup soon.

1) They follow the classic relationship pattern or if they are in a casual rebound relationship, then there is a good chance that their relationship will end rather soon. As I mentioned above, these rebound relationship patterns are very common, and they often end very soon. Even if they don’t end, an ex will not be able develop a strong connection with their new boyfriend or girlfriend and it will be easy to get them to breakup the new relationship once you get back in touch with them.

2) They keep contacting you even though they are in a new relationship. If your ex keeps contacting you without any real reason, then there is a good chance they still have strong feelings for you and that they don’t have the strong connection with their new partner.

3) They are excited to hear from you and they continue speaking to you without any resistance. If you reach out to your ex after no contact, and they are excited to hear from you and it seems like they want to continue speaking with you, then there is a good chance their new relationship is not very strong and that it will end soon.

4) They have sex with you. If your ex is intimate with you despite being in a new relationship, then there is a pretty good chance their new relationship will end shortly. In fact, your ex sleeping with you may be the last straw that breaks the rebound camel’s back.

5) They post a lot of stuff on social media about their new relationship. If they have been in the new relationship for only a short while and they start posting pics on social media about it aggressively, then there is a good chance they are doing it to make you jealous or get a reaction out of you. the very fact that they are doing this for you means that they still have feelings for you. And that means they don’t have strong feelings for their new partner.

6) They started the relationship too soon after the breakup. In my experience, most relationships that are started within 3 months of a breakup usually end up in a breakup. Sure, there are exceptions to it (like the toxic rebound relationship and the Bruce Banner Rebound Relationships), but they are very rare. If your ex started a new relationship within 3 months of breakup, then there is a good chance it will end sooner or later.

7) You were with your ex for a very long time. One of the factors that determines whether a relationship is a rebound or not is how much connected and attached your ex was with you. Usually, the longer you both were together as a couple, the stronger the connection and attachment. So if you and your ex were together for more than a year, then there’s a good chance their new relationship is a rebound and it will end shortly.

8) They don’t have a strong support network. If your ex does not have a strong support network of friends and family, then there is a good chance they started a rebound relationship just because they were lonely. In that case, they will fail to develop a strong romantic attachment to their new rebound and will only use them to avoid the loneliness. Most relationships like this do not last very long.

9) They still tell you that they love you. If your ex tells you that they still love you, despite being in a new relationship, then that’s a pretty big sign that their new relationship will fail.

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